Undeniably, life is unpredictable. You may dream of the wonderful life as much as you want it to be like as if your future-to-be is at your finger tips , but in reality, life may be twisted as it does not go on as smooth as what you have planned when there is emergence of so-called “obstacles”, which are just happening in the absence of your consciousness, acting as a blocker along the path towards achieving your dream. You may have your clear objective to be achieved at the first place but what matter now is how you are going to realize your objective. It always being said that by having a strategic planning is a crucial way to guide you and ensure you are on the right path to realization. But somehow it does not mean your plan is 100% works as expected. For instance, to complete your research for your final year project, the strategic planning is to read through research article from different sources as much as you can so that you are able to find out the best method to set up the right methodology in order to obtain the final result as you expected. Theoretically, you may think it is correct and your objective may achievable, but it just does not happen the way it should be when you have found out that you couldn’t find the apparatus that you need or maybe the result turns out to be negative. These “obstacles” may upset your easy life as per planned and it turns out that you may need to come out with other contingency plans in order to achieve your dream.
That, is just one example. In real life, obstacles do happen spontaneously in many ways, either during your study life, marriage life, career path, every single decision you have made towards achieving the life that you want to have in the future. And there are only two options to choose, to escape or to face it positively. If you choose to give up, you are totally out from the battle. If you choose the latter, you are struggle to fight with the challenge, and who knows you may stand a chance to win the battle? After all, life is just about learning to fight with the challenges. Fail at the first time does not mean you will forever fall from the path of success unless you choose to give up. Whether you are aware or not, if you able to face the failure positively, it could make you stronger and facing challenges positively lead to enhance your mental maturity which leads you to become ever a better person.
After all, it is the matter of your ATTITUDE in dealing with all these “obstacles”, failure and challenges. How you are going to response to these is vital in determining failure or success in your life. Thomas Edison, Nelson Mandela, Nick Vujicic, just name it out all these successful people whether in career, personal life, politic, aren't they failed for many times before they achieve their dreams and eventually being popular for their success? There is only one reason, they faced positively at their failure and never give up in achieving their dream. So, why not stay positively at your attitude and I am sure your will find success in your life.
2014年2月12日星期三
2014年1月30日星期四
Back on stage!!!
Went to visit my blog again and realized it had been abandoned for one year!!! OMG~~!!!Remembered my purpose to open the blog two years ago was to express my deepest feeling and to commemorate those happy moments I used to have by flipping back my little blog during my spare time. Such a lazy bug I am to continue update my blog -.-…
Another new year has came which means a new chapter of life that I will be having and new challenges that I may have to encounter which may lead to my maturity mentally. This year is a year of horse , according to lunar calendar. So, what revolution I should have to welcome my new year and paint my new chapter of life? Well, to me, health , safe and sound are the most important , vital wishes for which I will never skip to pray for family. As for my career, I do hope that I will be successful….erm….so how to define successful in my career path? Haha… Good salary, fat fat bonus? Hehehehe… Whatever is it, it indicates that we have been visible to our bosses on our hard work and effort that we have been put into, so in return they reward us with increment or fat bonus, which also shows our success in our career path. hehehehe
Anywhere, happy new year everyone, have a blessing and prosperous year..!!!
Another new year has came which means a new chapter of life that I will be having and new challenges that I may have to encounter which may lead to my maturity mentally. This year is a year of horse , according to lunar calendar. So, what revolution I should have to welcome my new year and paint my new chapter of life? Well, to me, health , safe and sound are the most important , vital wishes for which I will never skip to pray for family. As for my career, I do hope that I will be successful….erm….so how to define successful in my career path? Haha… Good salary, fat fat bonus? Hehehehe… Whatever is it, it indicates that we have been visible to our bosses on our hard work and effort that we have been put into, so in return they reward us with increment or fat bonus, which also shows our success in our career path. hehehehe
Anywhere, happy new year everyone, have a blessing and prosperous year..!!!
2012年4月7日星期六
Lesson of the day
Always, our desire transcend of what we have. And people tend to focus on what they want instead of what they already have. They keep expanding thier list of desires,but sad to say that eventually they still remain dissatisfied. And that's why unhappiness tend to lead their life.
In the contrast, if you could ever learn to be grateful of what you have instead of emphasising your thought on what you want, trust me, you could definitely make a different and you will end up getting more of what you want anyway.
So, start from now on, always think of what you have instead of what you want.You will definitely found the way to self-satisfaction and happiness...^^
In the contrast, if you could ever learn to be grateful of what you have instead of emphasising your thought on what you want, trust me, you could definitely make a different and you will end up getting more of what you want anyway.
So, start from now on, always think of what you have instead of what you want.You will definitely found the way to self-satisfaction and happiness...^^
2012年2月17日星期五
2011年12月2日星期五
Feel the Fear And do it Anyway
Have you ever feel fear in your life? Perhaps … fear of cockroach? flying? height?... I guess everyone does experiences fear. Michael Pritchard once said: "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed." When you feel fearful, the feeling of fear is programmed into your nervous system and works like an instinct, holding you back from approaching things that you are facing where it tend to build up behavior of escape and avoidance.
Fellow toastmaster, ladies and gentlemen, let me share with you my three fears and how I overcome my fears. They are:
1. Fear of public speaking
2. Fear of social interaction
3. Fear of failure
Far above the fear of death and disease, comes the fear of standing in front of a crowd to speak. Yes, I have faced this problem since I was in primary school. I never dare myself to raise my hand and volunteer myself to answer a simple question posed by teachers. Whenever teachers ask for a volunteer out of 50 students in the class to answer his/her question, automatically I will sure bend my shoulder, eye contact with the floor instead of the teacher, and in my mind … I keep praying that “Don’t pick me! Don’t pick me! P-l-e-a-s-e ...”. Yes, being the physically smallest in the class, teachers hardly notice me and I was spared from answering those questions.
This fear of speaking has eroded me to a person who lacks confidence in delivering my message to others especially in front of a crowd.
Realizing that I need to overcome my fear to speak, I started to take initiative to participate in story telling contests and choral speaking club during my secondary school where I could practise to build up my confidence and courage to stand in front of the crowd whether in a group or alone and speak. It really does help me to overcome my fear. And of course, it is not enough, that’s why I have joined the toastmaster club, and this evening, I am here to present my 3rd speech so that I can further overcome my fear of speaking in front of public.
I Felt the Fear of Public Speaking And I Did It Anyway!
Let me now share my 2nd fear – the fear of social interaction.
Whenever my relatives, my father’s or my brother’s friends came to our house and visit us, there is always a little girl, hiding behind my mum, holding tight at her shirt and again … eye contact with the floor … or sometimes running into her bedroom and locking herself in her room, pretending to finish up her homework … that’s me. Instead of shyly stepping up to meet with people, I could feel deep inside me … a fear … holding me back to interact with people. The anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people inhibited my interaction with others.
However, as time goes by, I start to realize that it was rude behavior not to respond positively when people approaches me to talk to me. Since then, I took the initiative to join clubs and societies which do involve interaction with people. Chinese Society, PBSM, Sin Chew Cadet Reporter, SLAD, Pesta Ang Pau … I made new friends from my schools and other schools as well. Together we organized activities, mingled with different team members, play and fool around with each other. After all, it was not only a matter about fun and learning but it is all about conquering the social phobia embedded within me.
I Felt the Fear of Interacting with People … And I Did It Anyway.
My third and not the least fear is the fear of failure.
Yes, most of the time I am afraid to try because I am afraid I will fail. And usually I will give myself numbers of well-reasoned thoughts such as “timing isn’t right”, “I doubt I could handle this” … and eventually, these rationales caused me to miss many opportunities to learn.
Buckminster Fuller once wrote, “Whatever humans have learned had to be learned as a consequence only of trial and error experience. Humans have learned only through mistakes.”
And this reminds me of Thomas Edison, who went through 1000 time of “mistakes” just to invent a light bulb. His success doesn’t come from his invention but his courage to take the risk of trial and error.
His real life story does impact on my perception of failure and help me overcome my fear. Whenever I fail, I will remind myself of Thomas Edison – no one will ever succeed if they never fail.
I Felt the Fear of Failure … I remembered the Words of people like Thomas Edison … And I Did It Anyway.
Fellow toastmaster, ladies and gentlemen,
Fear can be overcome only if you face it head on. Yes, I use to fear public speaking AND I am now standing before you now. I use to fear social interacting with people AND now I have made many friends especially friends like you. And the fear of failure AND I shall soon be graduating from this fine university with a degree in Chemical Engineering.
Let me close with this quote from Susan Jeffers: [ … P A U S E … B R E A T H E
D E E P L Y … A N D S A Y …]
FEEL THE FEAR, AND DO IT ANYWAY!
Mr/Ms Toastmaster.
Fellow toastmaster, ladies and gentlemen, let me share with you my three fears and how I overcome my fears. They are:
1. Fear of public speaking
2. Fear of social interaction
3. Fear of failure
Far above the fear of death and disease, comes the fear of standing in front of a crowd to speak. Yes, I have faced this problem since I was in primary school. I never dare myself to raise my hand and volunteer myself to answer a simple question posed by teachers. Whenever teachers ask for a volunteer out of 50 students in the class to answer his/her question, automatically I will sure bend my shoulder, eye contact with the floor instead of the teacher, and in my mind … I keep praying that “Don’t pick me! Don’t pick me! P-l-e-a-s-e ...”. Yes, being the physically smallest in the class, teachers hardly notice me and I was spared from answering those questions.
This fear of speaking has eroded me to a person who lacks confidence in delivering my message to others especially in front of a crowd.
Realizing that I need to overcome my fear to speak, I started to take initiative to participate in story telling contests and choral speaking club during my secondary school where I could practise to build up my confidence and courage to stand in front of the crowd whether in a group or alone and speak. It really does help me to overcome my fear. And of course, it is not enough, that’s why I have joined the toastmaster club, and this evening, I am here to present my 3rd speech so that I can further overcome my fear of speaking in front of public.
I Felt the Fear of Public Speaking And I Did It Anyway!
Let me now share my 2nd fear – the fear of social interaction.
Whenever my relatives, my father’s or my brother’s friends came to our house and visit us, there is always a little girl, hiding behind my mum, holding tight at her shirt and again … eye contact with the floor … or sometimes running into her bedroom and locking herself in her room, pretending to finish up her homework … that’s me. Instead of shyly stepping up to meet with people, I could feel deep inside me … a fear … holding me back to interact with people. The anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people inhibited my interaction with others.
However, as time goes by, I start to realize that it was rude behavior not to respond positively when people approaches me to talk to me. Since then, I took the initiative to join clubs and societies which do involve interaction with people. Chinese Society, PBSM, Sin Chew Cadet Reporter, SLAD, Pesta Ang Pau … I made new friends from my schools and other schools as well. Together we organized activities, mingled with different team members, play and fool around with each other. After all, it was not only a matter about fun and learning but it is all about conquering the social phobia embedded within me.
I Felt the Fear of Interacting with People … And I Did It Anyway.
My third and not the least fear is the fear of failure.
Yes, most of the time I am afraid to try because I am afraid I will fail. And usually I will give myself numbers of well-reasoned thoughts such as “timing isn’t right”, “I doubt I could handle this” … and eventually, these rationales caused me to miss many opportunities to learn.
Buckminster Fuller once wrote, “Whatever humans have learned had to be learned as a consequence only of trial and error experience. Humans have learned only through mistakes.”
And this reminds me of Thomas Edison, who went through 1000 time of “mistakes” just to invent a light bulb. His success doesn’t come from his invention but his courage to take the risk of trial and error.
His real life story does impact on my perception of failure and help me overcome my fear. Whenever I fail, I will remind myself of Thomas Edison – no one will ever succeed if they never fail.
I Felt the Fear of Failure … I remembered the Words of people like Thomas Edison … And I Did It Anyway.
Fellow toastmaster, ladies and gentlemen,
Fear can be overcome only if you face it head on. Yes, I use to fear public speaking AND I am now standing before you now. I use to fear social interacting with people AND now I have made many friends especially friends like you. And the fear of failure AND I shall soon be graduating from this fine university with a degree in Chemical Engineering.
Let me close with this quote from Susan Jeffers: [ … P A U S E … B R E A T H E
D E E P L Y … A N D S A Y …]
FEEL THE FEAR, AND DO IT ANYWAY!
Mr/Ms Toastmaster.
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